Accepting and Managing My FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out)


I admit it, I have FOMO, Fear Of Missing Out. It started on Facebook when it looked like others were having fun and attending events that I couldn’t or chose not to. I know, it’s weird, I’d make a choice not to go then have all these feelings about not being there.

Now, my FOMO extends to my professional life as I see more and more blogs, posts, Tweets, and references about conferences and professional development others are attending that I’m not.

I’m envious of those who travel to, attend, and present at local, state, and national conferences more than I do. I know it’s not possible for me to attend more than one or two national conferences a year due to time, work schedule, budgets, and resources, but my FOMO still doesn’t go away.

As the ITSE 2017 conference draws near and more and more folks from my PLN share their excitement about attending, presenting, and meeting up, I have reflected on how to ease my FOMO from missing this, and other conferences, and still learn from others.

First, follow the hashtags. Most conferences and some professional development sessions have a hashtag to generate excitement and share the learning. Follow those. There is even a hashtag #NotAtISTE17 to stay connected from afar.

Second, follow members of your PLN. Follow the posts, Voxes and Tweets of your PLN members who may be attending a conference that you aren’t. Learn and live vicariously through them. Engage with them and ask them about their highlights and favorite parts.

Third, participate in Twitter chats. Sometimes before, after, and even during conferences, there will be Twitter chats around the general conference or specific speakers, presenters, or themes. Search those out and join in.

Next, expand your PLN. The more people you are connected with, the more you can read about and learn from their experiences. Even though I am unable to attend ITSE this year, I plan to follow the members of my PLN and will add others who are attending and sharing.

Start local. Attend local or regional EdCamps and conferences. Generally, those are closer, easier and cheaper to travel to, and you can make valuable connections with others who may be near you. Start small and it may lead you to bigger events!

Finally, give yourself permission and accept that you can’t do it all and sometimes you have to prioritize your own and your family’s needs. However, make sure you ARE attending conferences and professional development, even if it’s at the local level. The people you meet and connect with will have a lasting impact on you and they may be the impetus for you to attend more national conferences in the future which can help reduce your FOMO.



I’ve Become Skilled At Reading Upside Down By Sharing Books With Students Each Month


I love my PLN for all the great ideas that are shared. Over the last few years I have taken and used, to some degree, the following practices members of my PLN have shared: TouchCast video; Smore for school newsletters and staff bulletins; coding and programming resources I use with students; reflecting and sharing by blogging; using Buncee and Flipgrid as presentation and feedback tools; and EdCamp style professional development for my staff.

Another idea I borrowed from a member of my PLN (and I’m sorry I don’t remember who because I’d love to give them credit) is the practice of reading a different book each month to classes. This past year I read a different book during September, October, November, January, February, March, and April. I skipped December because I taught Hour of Code lessons to classes that month and May was so packed with other events and activities that it was hard to schedule myself to read to classes.

I selected some of the books from my personal collection and I reached out to my PLN for other ideas. During the year I read “Going Places,” “The Butter Battle Book,” “Gaston,” “Last Stop On Market Street,” “What Do You Do With An Idea?,” “What If The Shark Wears Tennis Shoes?,” and “Beekle.”

In order to make myself available to 24 PreK-6th grade classes, I scheduled four two-hour blocks into my calendar each month, two morning and two afternoon sessions. Then, I created a Google Spreadsheet indicating the dates and times, sent that to teachers, and had them sign up for a 15 minute slot.

I found that 15 minutes was the right amount of time. Sometimes the story didn’t take that long, but the month I read “The Butter Battle Book”, I had to read at a quick pace to finish in 15 minutes. But that was fun, reading quickly in the writing style of Dr. Seuss.

I’ll be continuing reading to classes next year trying not to miss any month. I have already started to collect books I plan to read next year as suggested by members of my PLN. Those books are in the photo above.

Principals, join me in reading to your classes. I had fun, it’s great modeling, you get to share your love of reading, and students enjoyed it. My 6th graders were just as focused and engaged in the stories as the PreK students and kindergartners ¬†were.

Another practice I started last year that I need to be more consistent with is sharing and reading books to my staff. At our staff meetings I shared some of the books I planned to read to students. I did this to be a role model for literacy and share great stories with all licensed staff members, not just the teachers listening to me read in their classrooms.

If you have a great book idea for my monthly story for students or to read to my staff, please share those with me on Twitter @PrincipalFrench. Thank you!

Managing Drama


Last week I shared the events of a particularly busy day with my Principals In Action PLN on Voxer. One term I used seemed to resonate with others. I described some days in May as “drama filled.”

Now, I’m not disparaging anyone or any incident because the month of May can bring out drama, for very legitimate reasons: the school year is coming to an end; the pressure to get everything done on time is real; patience is wearing thin; and, for some students and family members, summer is a stressful time.

I offer five tips to managing the drama that presents itself at this time of the school year.

First, remain calm. Your calmness will be reassuring and can help calm others’ feelings and emotions.

Second, listen. Many people just want to vent and share and just by listening you are helping. Also, by actively listening, you can help paraphrase what you heard or identify the underlying issue.

Third, reduce your commitments. Don’t overschedule yourself, that will stress YOU out. And, it is okay to say, “no.” I’ve said “no” recently to someone who wanted to add another thing during this busy time of the year.

Fourth, be present. Your visibility will be comforting to others and with reduced commitments, you’ll be available to respond to situations and support others.

Finally, lean on others. We all need a listening ear, advice, and support ourselves so find others who can provide that. I reach out to members of my PLN during these busy weeks and that is very helpful.

We won’t be able to eliminate the busy and sometimes drama filled days in May, but how we behave and react can help situations and others, ultimately helping ourselves.

“Disaster Relief” or “It’s Just Stuff”


Yesterday, after a great day at school, I arrived home to Kip making dinner. I hadn’t even taken my shoes off when we heard a noise that sounded like someone was power washing the roof. We looked out the living room window and water was gushing out of the gutters and drains. We headed upstairs to discover water was pouring into our master bedroom through the windows, then through the lighting fixtures. Grabbing whatever I could to stop the water, police and firefighters arrived because our townhome building alarms were going off. A sprinkler system pipe in the attic of our townhouse burst sending thousands of gallons of water through our two floors and into the garage below our unit. Thankfully, the police, firefighters, association representatives, insurance company, and cleaning crews responded quickly. The walls, floors, carpeting, windows, ceilings, and furniture are significantly damaged. We’ll be out for three months for demolition and repairs and are determining what’s salvageable to go into storage and where we’re going to live.

The disaster relief referenced in the title is relief and support we have received from others. Social media was a life saver for me during this difficult situation. It’s only stuff, which can be replaced. Physically, we’re okay, but mentally, we’re shaken. The comments of care and concern, the offers of help, and the messages of support on Facebook, Twitter, and Voxer have been overwhelming. We’ll be okay and I know how fortunate we are. Others go through difficult situations and have fewer resources and support systems than we do. It’s just stuff, which can be replaced, but the support from friends near and far (some of whom I have never met in person) was priceless.

I’m fortunate to be part of the Principals In Action Voxer group. I shared the news with them first and said I’m going to lean on you the next few months. My friend, Brad Gustafson, a lyrically challenged member of the Voxer group, stepped out of his comfort zone and led a Voxeroke rendition of Lean On Me. I was crying tears of joy and laughter hearing that. Thank you all.

I Cried at School Today

IMG_0203I cried at school today. Yes, principals cry. Maybe I cried because I’ve worked hard with one particular family but I still can’t get their daughter to stop fighting on the bus. Maybe I cried because I had to comfort one of my 6th grade boys because a classmate made fun of his beautiful skin color. Maybe I cried because a mother who came in to discipline her child finally broke down and admitted she can’t read. Maybe I cried because some weeks we care so much and try to help so many and it seems like we’re not getting ahead. But, things have a way of coming together and sorting themselves out. At the end of the day, a first grader came to tell me this was his last day because he was moving. He then gave me a hug and said he was going to miss me. Yep, then I cried, again.

My Day as a 2nd Grader

I’m not a fan of long blog posts. Maybe it’s my short attention span but I like succinct information. However, I had an experience today that I could write a great deal about. I participated in the Shadow a Student Challenge and randomly selected one of our students. I spent the day with my friend, Ansar, a 2nd grader. Interestingly, Ansar was sick for three days before returning today, the day I shadowed him. What a trooper. I could tell he wasn’t feeling 100%, but he gave 110%. I had an amazing day riding the bus with Ansar, having Spanish and music, enjoying recess and lunch, and being inspired and entertained by the teacher, Mr. Ike. Like I said earlier, I could write tons about my experience, but I’m going to describe my top three takeaways:


1. Developing relationships is so important. Because Mr. Ike has focused on this, he had his students eating out of his hands. He told stories, made jokes, brought in props, shared artifacts, had them lying on the floor, made them walk around the room observing, let them dance and sing, and they were fully engaged. He’s got some live wires but even they responded to their teacher because relationships have been established and they didn’t want to disappoint him.


2. 2nd graders have full days! While we adults may get breaks, prep time, and duty free lunch, these kids are on all day. Here’s what we were engaged in that day: breakfast, collecting books for upcoming book bazaar, morning meeting, spelling review, Spanish, music, math, recess, lunch, dance party, learning about a wooden trunk, Sparkle game, spelling test, guest reader, group meeting, literacy instruction, reading test, read aloud, science inquiry, and some extra outside physical activity. It was such a full and busy day that I collapsed for a nap on the couch when I got home.


3. Teachers are amazing. They are magicians, story tellers, actors, actresses, comedians, counselors, nurses, parents, mediators, singers, dancers, artists, musicians, and so much more. I remember thinking of the magic happening in the classroom that day multiplied by all the amazing teachers at my school and being in awe of what teachers accomplish on a daily basis.

If you have never participated in the Shadow a Student Challenge, I highly recommend it. Find a day and block yourself out for a full, rich, genuine experience. You’ll be glad you did!

2016 Was My Leap Year


I took a leap this year. After 18 years as an elementary principal in one Minnesota school district, I applied to, was interviewed for, and became the principal at Gatewood Elementary in the Hopkins Public Schools, the district in which I live, pay taxes, and vote.

Making a change after being in a district for nearly two decades was daunting, but I looked at the opportunity as a chance for me to reflect, learn, and grow.

I had to reflect on my reasons for a change and the skill set I could bring to a new district and school. My former district prepared me well and gave me experiences in equity work, digital learning, climate and culture, and instruction and learning, all valuable in my new position.

I have learned a lot about myself and two school systems: my former district and my new district. I’m learning about a new school community and district, new staff members and colleagues, and new students and families. I’m also learning what my priorities and expectations are in helping all students achieve success.

Finally, making this leap has allowed me to grow. I’ve been able to think and ask critical questions, reach out for advice and support from my PLN, and try new ideas and possibilities. It’s fun trying new things in a new school.

If you are ever contemplating a change, don’t be afraid. Reach out to me and I will listen and share my experiences.

One of my favorite musicals is Wicked and one of my favorite songs is “Defying Gravity”. One of the lines in the song is, “It’s time to trust my instincts, close my eyes and leap.” I’m so happy that 2016 was my leap year!